Steady Captain Counselling

A Healing Journey for Anxious Individuals, Partners & Parents

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Navigate Anxiety with Confidence

Support for Healing Generational Trauma

Recovery from Parental Burnout

Hi there! I’m Tara.

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My name is Tianlan Xu, and you can call me Tara!

I’m a registered social worker (MSW) in Ontario. I’m most passionate about empowering people who struggle with anxiety and generational trauma to feel confident about their coping ability and enjoy life to the fullest.

I want you to know that your anxiety symptoms are not just hassles that you need to hide/make go away; they are windows for understanding your stories of trauma and resilience, and it is a wonderful opportunity for healing and growth.

I want to help shift your relationship with the anxious part of you that has been working SO HARD over the years, so that you can cope from a place of steadiness and calmness grounded in your adulthood.

About Tara

You need help with

    • Understanding Your anxiety 

    • Befriending the part of you that is feeling anxious 

    • Learn and practice skills so you know exactly what to do when feeling anxious

    • Become anxiety coping Ninja 🥷

    • Setting boundaries

    • Communication tools 

    • Learn what to do when you mess up

    • From conflict to connection

    • Parenting that builds emotion regulation and resilience 

    • Ending generational trauma

    • Reparenting, give yourself what you wish you were given all those years

You’re looking to build

  • Do you feel lost and helpless whenever anxiety kicks in/ things don’t go well with your partner or your kids? 

    Want to feel an inner sense of calmed like a captain navigate the ship through the storm, even when part of you is worried, scared and tired?

  • Are you finding it so hard not to feel annoyance towards yourself when you are experiencing “negative feelings” for “too long”: anxiety, anger, sadness, frustration, FOMO, guilt? Want to weather the storms together with the warm, supportive, strong companion that is ALREADY inside of you, waiting to be brought out? You deserve to have a friend in you, rain or shine.

Let’s Talk!

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